Is Sisterhood dying out here in “these streets”?

As a young girl growing up, I watched a multitude of Black American films and Tv shows. Most if not all were centred around female friendships, sisterhood and some good ole Girl Power.

Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. 

Sisterhood is the relationship between sisters

Girl Power is used in reference to an attitude of independence, confidence, and empowerment among young women


Waiting to exhale, Moesha, Sister-Sister, Girlfriends and Set it off gave me some insight into what female friendships and sisterhood should look like. The good, the bad & sometimes even the ugly. Being that I was the only girl child with two brothers, I really didn’t know much about sisterhood outside of what I had seen on tv. All of my knowledge and understanding really came from what I saw being portrayed on the big screen.


As if that wasn’t enough, the influx of all female girl groups consumed the music industry in the 90’s and their influence ran right into the new millennium. Shout out to my mum because she allowed us to have ‘The Box’  which was Cable TV for British People lol. The Box gave me direct access to the latest music videos of girl groups across the globe. I knew all the words to most of the songs and I was quick on my feet with them dance moves too.


I was the additional group member in Destiny’s Child, TLC, SWV and many others. This was a fact and no one at home could tell me otherwise lol. Up until this day, I can still remember the first time I saw the Spice Girls ‘Wannabe’ video. I was in awe. I’m not sure if it was because they were British or because they were girls on a total madness in a music video. It was all new to me and it totally blew my mind because I had never seen anything like it before. All I knew from there on out was that when I was old enough I would have my own squad.


sticker,375x360-bg,ffffff.u3 This ‘squad‘ would become the sisters that I never had. We were going to be smart, fly, flawless & independent. The talk of the town, the crème de la crème, popular head turners with more than enough charm. We would walk each other through the different stages of life from first jobs to saying “I do”. Our bond would be tight like a knot nothing or no one could ever come between us. In my mind, it was possible to be like the girls in all those films and TV shows. I knew I wanted lifelong friends but as I grew older I realised that sometimes it’s not possible for 20 kids to play together for 20 years.

My experience of Sisterhood so far has not been smooth sailing. More like a profound learning experience that has taught me so much about life, other women and of course myself. My mum always told me that “you have to burn to learn” and she ain’t never lied. Some of the best  life lessons come through the burning process but that is a new blog post for another day lol

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Like many women out there I have been backstabbed, lied on, betrayed and let down by females who I have called my sisters. The friendships that I vowed would last a lifetime didn’t make it past a couple years. Some of my “day ones” have turned out to be agents from Satan who were secretly plotting on my downfall. I’ve had multiple friends screaming “yasss slay sis” in my social media comments but private whats app convos have said otherwise. Women just haven’t been who they portrayed themselves to be. My feelings have been hurt without reason, I’ve been abandoned by sisters who swore that they valued me. Yet I find strength in knowing that I am not the first woman to go through this and I most certainly won’t be the last.  This is the just way life goes.


Being a woman isn’t easy and being friends with women is even harder. After all the ups and downs that I have had with my female friends, I gave up.  The petty SHIT got played out for me, I was sick of females not saying things with their chest and hiding behind other women. I no longer wanted to be a part of a squad or clique and I even told myself I don’t want any bridesmaids at my wedding LMFAO. I just had no interest in being around females if all it would bring me is drama. I came to the conclusion that sisterhood among women was dead. I was anti females and I vowed never to trust another sister in the same capacity again. It is true what they say one bad apple can really spoil the lot.

My negative experiences made me the question whether sisterhood among women was really alive? How can you call someone your sister but be ready to trample on her to get ahead? For a long time, I used to think that maybe it was a cultural thing. Let’s really keep it 100 here, sometimes within the Black community, we have the tendency to fight against one another for the stupidest things.  Some say its the residue of slavery whilst others will argue that we simply just can’t get along. However, I can admit that it is not a cultural thing because the ladies in Sex in the city and Mean girls showed us issues within sisterhood has nothing to do with race.

Women can be so cruel to one another, especially to the women they know and even worse to the ones they know from a distance. I’m an imperfect sinner who has had fights, gone out of my way to trace out a couple gal, said some horrible things with valid reason and without. I’ve sipped and served many cups of tea (gossip) and thrown plenty shade. There ain’t no woman alive on this earth who has not done the same.I have grown up a lot and I still have lots more growing to do, because I refuse to stay the same person. Every woman has bitchy ways, but it’s their choice whether or not they chose to display them.

I have improved my attitude towards women a great deal. I try my best to go out of my way to support other women. Whether its a Retweet on twitter, attending an event, buying products and services or offering my time. Even small words of encouragement and a compliment can go along way. I now realise that when one woman wins I win too. Whenever I see a woman driving a bad boy car, I’m like yasss sis Fuck it up.The unity of sisterhood isn’t limited to the women that you know, it can be shown to those that you don’t know either.


Supporting another sister does not take anything away from you or your destiny. In this new age of social media, there is a lot of smoke and mirrors. The world is full of noise and women supporting other women appears to be the “in thing”. Yet what lies beneath the surface is jealousy, competition and fake unity. There are many females walking around in squads full of phoneys. Majority of them don’t really like or support each other and they are waiting for their sis to crash and burn so they can revel in her misery.

It looks good to appear as if you are supporting someone because you don’t want to be called out as a hater. Most people care about how they are perceived by others and this is the fuel behind their behaviour. Sometimes support from your “so-called sister” is really jealousy and hate disguised as a Repost on the socials to save face.  As harsh as this sounds for many women this is a reality. Please don’t shoot the messenger I know my delivery is raw but Aunty Lorna (my mum) didn’t raise me to trample lightly around the truth. If one thing sisterhood has taught me is that people’s actions never match what is really in their heart.

The truth is SISTERHOOD isn’t dead, but it’s in CRITICAL condition. There is so much more that goes into being a sister to another. It requires great compassion, love, patience and understanding. To call yourself SOMEONE’s sister comes with a responsibility that is not to be taken lightly.  A lot of us commit to sisterhood relationships without understanding the depth of the responsibilities that are attached to it. We immaturely launch ourselves in at the deep end and cant deliver when it times to step up to the plate.

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From my own experiences, I have called the wrong individuals my sisters and have left myself open for plenty disappointments. I’ve been naive and put people on pedestals they had no business being on. I used to the think that the strength of sisterhood was due the quantity of a squad.  I soon came to realise that you could walk alongside a large group of people who were really not on your team.

The only way to survive the dark side of sisterhood is to make sure you position people appropriately in your life. When people show you who they are the FIRST time, don’t stick around for part two because you will only have yourself to blame. Seek wisdom regarding friendships and don’t just run into people, learn to be observant of others before you go screaming ‘SIS’. Also be a reflection of the type of friend that you would want others to be to you. You cant be out here screaming everyone is fake when your credentials are a bit sketchy because you’re actually a shit friend. Do better.

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Most importantly let your past experiences be a lesson. Use them as a guide on what to avoid when establishing new relationships. My mum told me that she met some of her lifelong sisters in her late 20’s, so remember that you are never too old to make new relationships. Give Drake a pass when he is out here screaming out ‘no new friends.

It is rare that you get to continue on in life with the people who you started with. You grow up and move on. Break promises of staying friends forever. Walk away with many unanswered questions and pride won’t let you go to go back in time to hash out the past. So take those memories, FORGIVE, keep it moving and pray that the people you need will meet me on the way.


Despite sisterhood being turbulent for the most part of my life, I must say there have been some blessings to come out of it. I no longer have or feel the need to be a part of a squad. I now have a collection of amazing women in my life who joined me during different stages of my journey. Some have been there since day one and others have come along the way and shown me the real definition of sisterhood.

So today I shoutout to the women who have made an impact in my life and shown me the real definition of Unity. Even though I was an only girl child at home, I was blessed to have a multitude of women around who loved and looked out for me.  Most importantly to the sisters from my past, if I was not a good sister to you I apologise. We may no longer speak but our paths crossed for a reason and many valuable lessons were learned from it. I have peace with you all because I stopped holding malice many moons ago and by forgiving you  I have set my soul free and can have peace of mind.

I now understand that in order to be a better sister I have to become a better woman. Before I can give to others I have to ensure that I give unto myself first. The filling of my own my cup will enable me to serve others from its overflow. Showing love to other women must truly come from the genuine depths of my heart. To experience Sisterhood is a privilege that is to be honoured to the highest degree. I cherish it and I can’t wait to pass these gems onto my daughters, nieces, goddaughters and many other women who shall come after me.


So In the spirit of sisterhood, I just want to shout out some of the amazing women in my life. To my friends and family members who are mothers, I am deeply inspired by you. As I watch you all nurture your children, I am blown away by the level of strength you display on a daily basis.You are all doing amazing and I can’t wait to see your children grow up to do great and mighty things.

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24 thoughts on “Is Sisterhood dying out here in “these streets”?

  1. What a lovely post and thank you for shout out!

    I can totally relate to keeping people in your life for no good reason and the fact that your mum met her closest friends in her late 20s reminds me that I have so much to be open to. I’ve lost some I’ve gained and kept sisters but in all I want to see all of us win no matter what.


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  2. Yasssssssssss! Absolutely loved this post! We salute you for acknowledging and recognising the Mother’s out here that are raising King’s & Queens.

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  3. Another brilliant post Jenna. Almost felt like you wrote this for me lol!!!! It is most definitely your time to shine sweetie ❤️. Thank you for the shout out much appreciated xxx

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    • Thank you for taking the time out to read it Niks❤ I am so happy that it resonated with you. I appreciate all the support and feedback. No problem for the shoutout, you are 1 of the women who showed me love as a little girl and growing up, so It was only right xxx


  4. Beautifully written thank you for the shout out cuz I appreciate it I love the issues you brought up. Think you would do amazing on a podcast keep shining beautiful xxxx


    • Hi cuz thank you for taking the time out to reAd my new blogpost. Thanks for the feedback, I expect good things so I’m open to what the future holds for #JennasWorldView.
      Keep up all the good work with the music, big things are to come!❤


  5. I’ve always wanted a strong bonded friendship. I thought I had found them, but as you grow you notice what’s healthy and what isn’t. Unfortunately it was on my birthday when I did 2 years ago and I’m still trying to figure out what the hell went wrong, (*exhales*) but for now I’m just moving on hoping for better vibes. Your post is encouraging and well written. If nobody has thanked you let me.. thank you!


  6. A truly brilliant, informative & inspiring read. Relevant & true for any relationship- familial, platonic, romantic, etc. Very much enjoyed reading this, not only was very interesting, but very specific parts of it I can relate to my own experiences of friendships. ‘Burn to learn’- I couldn’t have said it better myself. I look forward to reading your future blog posts, I have no doubt that they will be as brilliant as this one.

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  7. such a relatable and inspiring post!! you really captured the essence of expectations in sisterhood and the realities. From your experiences it looks like your in a healthy and much more elevated space so everything happens for a reason.

    look forward to reading more of your posts xx


  8. What an awesome read that was . You touched on alot of points that were so close to home and it’s amazing to see that alot of people go through these situations within friendship . This was very inspiring girl and I enjoyed reading it i Can’t wait for your next blog . #QueensliftupQueens

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  9. Wow, I really identify with this post because I’ve gone through many situations where I thought women were my friend and it later turns out to not be the case. Thank you for writing this inspiring piece! It gives me hope that there are still women who are supportive of other women out there…


  10. Hey Jenna

    This really resonated with me and was something I had been thinking about for some time.

    I just have to maintain the belief that friendships are either for a reason,season or lifetime. No encounter is a mistake.
    It can be very disheartening when someone doesn’t make the effort , particularly when you’ve really been there for them in a time of need.

    I’m now learning this! Although it can be painful…it just means greatness is waiting on the other side.

    Excellent post…..thank you x

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  13. I’ve had horrible betrayals from women but I’ve had men I used to be friends with be just as bad. Any time I thought I finally found the right group it’s almost like I jinxed it but I love the sense of soladarity women have with each other, but sadly usually thats in the form of warning each other about certain people who might take advantage of them or if there’s been a surge of women getting spiked in a certain bar

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  14. I had an experience with a “friend” who basically turned my life upside. I mean…this was a woman who I saw every day. Who I shared my truths with. She fucked me OVER. Though I ended up moving on from that friendship and had two really good girls in my squad (my actual sister will always be my BFFFFFF so she is exempt from all these feelings) I realized I wasn’t the best friend to those women because I had trust issues. These women were AMAZING but I couldn’t give them my all.

    Now I’m at a point where I literally have ZERO friends, I miss having people who care and who look in, catch up, I miss the sounds of a BITTCH YOU LOOK GOOOOOD. But I know even if I made a friend here, which I really don’t see happening, my hurt causes ME to not be a sista. It’s frustrating, and I appreciate this post because it’s making me look within myself on this early Sat morning and making me examine my hurts and loneliness. Bless darling.

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  15. In a world that constantly pits females against each other, I am pleased to see a celebration of the powerful force that is the woman. I too have come to learn the beauty in ‘quality over quantity’ x


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