Intuition; A blessing in disguise!

If you follow me on the socials, you should have noticed that I have started promoting my #PostBreakUp travel series. 2017 was a great year of travel for me, who knew that heartbreak could take me so far, lol. It didn’t feel right for me to take you through my trips to Berlin, Santorini & Costa Rica, without giving you some insight into how I ended up there in the first place. I have to take you back a bit, so grab some snacks and get comfy.

Being the only girl child at home, I spent a lot of time around my mum (Hey Aunty Lorna). I don’t think it was intentional, but that’s just how it was. I was like her handbag, wherever she was, you would always find me close by. With that being said, I saw a lot and I heard much more.

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Instead of watching cartoons, I would be in the company of my Mother and other knowledgeable women. I spent countless hours sitting on their laps, hanging on to their every word as they exchanged life stories.  Some of the things that my Mother & these women experienced within their romantic relationships should be shared via book deals and movies. Every one of their scars came with a different story and I learned something new, each time I listened. It was through those same conversations, where I first heard about something called ‘Intuition’.

Intuition : The ability to know something without analytic reasoning based soley on a gut feeling.

 Each woman who shared their story talked about ‘intuition’ with the utmost respect. It led some to the front doors of their husband’s mistress. Whilst others uncovered children from outside the relationship. Apparently, intuition had the ability to keep them up late at night, eating away at their conscious until they responded to the call. Many described intuition as a gut feeling, that pushed them to do some crazy things without telling them why.  No two stories that I ever heard about intuition were ever the same. Whether these women responded to their intuition or not, there was always a consequence to whichever path they decided to take.

A majority of the things that I heard my mum and her girlfriends discuss didn’t make much sense to me when I was younger. I just enjoyed being amongst the women and listening, because it filled the void of not having that much girly company around.  Although those conversations didn’t make much sense to me at the time. It would soon prove to be of great value once I blossomed and came into my own.  I didn’t realise just how much I absorbed just from listening to big women have real, raw, and honest conversations about the power of their intuition until it was time for mine to be put to the test.

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A year before my seven-year relationship came to an end, I randomly came across the girl my ex-cheated on me with via facebook. I can remember the day so clearly because I was just browsing and there she was. It was so random but when I look back now, I can tell you that was supposed to happen. Up until that point, I didn’t even know that she existed but after scrolling through her facebook pictures I made the connections and that was that, or so I thought.

This same individuals file came across my desk again, but this time around I was to give her my full attention. Up until this day, I find it difficult to describe the way my spirit was so suddenly drawn to her. I believe it was more spiritual than anything because this girl was a stranger but the sight of her made my spirit unsettled. Whenever I looked at her pictures my gut feelings were always trying to communicate something to me, but sadly I couldn’t interpret what I was being told. So as a result, I suffered.

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I heard my mum say once that if you ignore your intuition ‘it ah go mad yuh’( basically send you crazy) and she didn’t lie. I wasn’t even in sync with my intuition like that, so how was I supposed to understand what was being told? How was I suppose to crack those secret codes? I was so scared about what I might find out on the other side, to the point where I tried to bury it in the back of my mind. The more I tried to ignore those signals from my intuition, the louder they got. I couldn’t put them on mute even if I tried.

I know you are probably thinking, why didn’t I just confront my ex and ask him once and for all. I did eventually but even that wasn’t easy.  I was a professional at ignoring negatives feelings that I found difficult to communicate. I mastered those skills during my childhood and sadly it trailed right into my adult life. As silly as this sounds, I didn’t know how to scream if something was wrong. Even within that relationship, I suppressed a lot so when it all came crashing down I am not surprised that I went down with it.

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I went to four people before I approached my ex about him cheating on me. My little brother was the first and my mum was the last. I wrestled with this from February and it was now half way through May. I know you are probably cursing me out right now, but there were so many other factors that played a part in me not speaking up earlier. The person he cheated on me with was a family member, so it’s not like I could be out in the streets throwing around those type of sleazy accusations.

What was I going to do?, invite him over for dinner and say ‘hey babe my intuition told me you were cheating on me with your cousin, can you just clear that up real quick?’ Do you know how crazy I would have looked if that turned out to be untrue? This was why I was so conflicted. This was why I wouldn’t risk taking my intuition seriously. My intuition was trying to lead me down some sick twisted roads and I’m not really good with directions.

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I eventually asked him about her and it is so funny because when I look back now it was obvious my intuition had been leading me to the truth all along. As I type this, I can still see the expression that he had on his face at that moment. As a woman, you want assurance from your man that everything is safe and secure. I wanted him to shut down my doubts and he did, then he flipped the script on me and made me feel guilty for questioning our unit. It was the first time in my life when the opposite sex made me feel small.

I felt very dumb. Especially when he went on to ask me if I was insecure and did I really trust him? It didn’t stop there, he started reminding me of how strong our foundation “was” as a couple. My ex-started preaching. Talking about how we had been through too much together and we have come from so far, for him to ever disrespect me in such a way. I can’t lie, he put forward a good case and it was exactly what I wanted to hear. It was what any woman would have wanted to hear. We hugged each other in silence for about 15minutes after and that was that, or so I thought.

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Steve Jobs said it best, that our intuition is more powerful than our intellect, and I have no grounds to disagree. Even when I didn’t know, even when I didn’t understand things my intuition did. I never took the time to get to know my intuition prior to this experience. Its a bit like buying a top gadget, but you don’t use it for long enough to uncover all of its features. I didn’t know myself as well as I thought I did. I didn’t know how to tap into my intuition and I was far from knowledgeable on how to cultivate a connection. I never really listened to the sound of my inner thoughts properly. I never really took care of myself, because I was always dismissing my feelings.  I was very confused and I couldn’t trust my own intuition because I didn’t really know what my intuition was all about. I missed the signs on numerous occasions and I dismissed the signals because the truth was I wasn’t really listening. I would soon come to regret this when the truth finally came to light.

You see when it all came crashing down and the truth was finally revealed months down the line that my intuition was right all along, it broke me in an instance. All the dots were finally connected. I remember sitting in the car with him and  I couldn’t stop screaming, it’s like my inner voice was finally free. Everything just started to make sense now. I wasn’t going crazy. My intuition wasn’t leading me astray or trying to ruin my relationship or my life. My intuition tried for so long to open me up the truth, its a shame I didn’t realise it sooner.  My intuition was actually a blessing in disguise. Nearly two years on and I finally see it now.

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I have shared this with you before but mum has always told me that you have to burn to learn and she ain’t never lied. I stood by helplessly as my ex- torched me and the total existence of our relationship to the ground. 7 years up in flames, with no bridges to cross back over. As much as I burned, I learned some valuables life lessons during the fire. There’s nothing like real life experience and although it was bittersweet, my break up established the connection between me and my intuition. Reading about it in a book, wouldn’t have got the job done, it was ordained for me to experience it in real time.

I made a vow to myself on the day I found out about the cheating, that I would never ever dismiss my intuition ever again. When it speaks to me now, I listen. When it sends me a signal, I don’t ignore it. When my intuition communicates to me about things and individuals, I don’t second guess it. I move when my intuition tells me to move. What has since occurred in my life post break up is an example of my intuition and me being as one. The moves that I make, the people that I connect to and the travelling that I do, is a result of me simply listening to my intuition.

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Never in a million years did I think that something like that would have happened to me, but it did and I survived to tell the tale. One thing I know for sure now is that Intuition is a life skill that is required for survival. I encourage you to take the time out and let your intuition guide you. Listen closely. Pay attention to the signs and work on establishing that connection. Don’t ignore it and don’t ever dismiss yourself.  If something or someone feels wrong and you can’t put your finger on it, chances are it probably is.

With that being said, I look forward to taking you through my Post break up Travel series. To read what happened next, click here and once you have digested that, the first stop will be in Berlin.

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Stay Blessed

Lots of Love

Jenna

xoxo

40 thoughts on “Intuition; A blessing in disguise!

  1. Such a beautiful piece! Almost brought me to tears. I can relate so much to what you’ve been through and I hope you’re healing well. Travel the world girl!!!!! Please live and be happy for all of us rooting for you x

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    • Awwwww Thank you, thank you, thank you. What a lovely comment. I am so glad that it resonated with you. I am healing and I am so grateful to still be on this journey. Bless you and thank you again for these kind words xxxxxx

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  2. I am excited for the other series. I was listening to Drake when I was reading this and it put me in my feels! I had a similar situation with my ex, your intuition is oh so well. I have been working on trainning myself to listen. But I am happy you made it through and shared something so personal xxx

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  3. Loved this! As women, we have all been there and it takes a while to learn to trust our gut. So sorry that you had this awful experience with your ex BUT you got out and you’re hear to inspire other women with your story. Looking forward to more!

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  4. Ouuuu such power and truth in this post! Intuition is nothing to play with or overlook…I’m so happy you came out on top and got, there’s strength in every heartbreak. A lot of women ignore the signs because they’re scared of what they may find out and the affect it’ll have but one thing following mine has taught me is you’re never wrong in all honesty, only fooling yourself if you choose to ignore. PS girl take me on one of your next trips lol! 😀

    xx Lena | https://lenadeexo.com

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  5. I’ve read this post twice (didn’t realise I hadn’t commented though 🤦🏽‍♀️)
    I couldn’t relate more, you’ve managed to write something with such class, that a lot of women go through and react with “madness”.
    I’ve been there myself, so I can’t tell you how much I love this post!
    Keep it up, because I for sure can’t wait to read the rest of the Post Break Up Travel Series 💕💕💕

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  6. Thank you so much for sharing this, I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve had to go through but it’s amazing to see you come out stronger. Trusting our gut can be scary, but sometimes we need to listen to our intuition. Look forward to reading more from you, so inspirational! X

    Evie x | https://eviejayne.co.uk

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  7. So sorry to hear what you went through but so wonderful to hear you came out even stronger. I can’t wait to read about your travels – I really find that going to places can have the most wonderful healing power. This has to be one of the best and most inspiring blog posts I have ever read, thank you xx

    Milly, emsirose.blogspot.com

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  8. I loved everything about this story, and can’t wait to read more in your series. I swear it takes an epic breakup to tap into and trust your intuition, and we’re always the better for it. I commend you Queen for honoring and valuing yourself enough to walk away. Get your eat, pray, love on girl!!

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    • Hi Bianca, Thank you for reading and I am so glad that you enjoyed it. I know it was a hard thing to go through, but I have come back stronger. There are blessings attached to everything that we go through.
      Jenna
      xoxo

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  9. Oh my goodness! I love this post. You write in such an inviting way!
    Yeah, intuition doesn’t lie and is not to be ignored, I’m afraid. Learned the hard way too. Look at this way, now you’re free of that now and love will find you!
    Look forward to hearing more from you. Thanks for sharing 😊🤗

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  10. I believe we fight against our intuition because we want to prove to the universe that we can be that exception. At least that’s why I fight my intuition. For me it’s hard to distinguish negativity, self doubt and intuition. Sometimes I tell myself don’t do it because I am afraid and not because it’s necessarily bad. I’m still learning to sort out which voice is what.

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  11. Thanks so much for this post – intuition can be a scary thing to trust at times, I have ignored mine in the past and got burned and somehow it is still hard to do but this post was an inspiration, thank you for sharing!

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  12. This post is so powerful! We owe it to ourselves to listen to our intuition. I’m so sorry you had to go through all that but it seems that it worked out in the end. The traveling you decided to do will make amazing memories for you that you can tell your children about someday and that wouldn’t have happened if you hadn’t listened to your intuition. I’m so glad you’re doing well!

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    • Thank you for this lovely comment Sarah. Yes, I am doing well, much better than before. I guess life has to take you down some dark roads in order to learn, see and become. It has made me a much better person and I am so glad that things have turned around. – Thank you reading xxx

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  13. absolutely beautiful post! thank you for these words of wisdom. I’m sorry you had to go through heartache but it very clearly made you stronger! it takes a lot of courage to share such a personal story..sending lots of love and positive vibes! 💞
    ~Mich | simplymich.com

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  14. I’m definitely someone who is intuitive and whenever I feel like something is wrong, I really can’t shake it. My problem is when my anxiety disorder kicks in and then I feel absolutely crazy. Your post is well written and I applaud you for taking your experience to be better and more in tuned to your senses. I definitely have been beaten by not listening to my intuition and I feel terrified when I don’t jump on everything my mind wraps itself around. Thank you for this post! I look forward to your future ones!

    CiCi | Navigation To Happiness
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