The Poison of Comparison
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Comparison
is a
Joy killer
Peace thief
and
Happiness Assassin
Be careful not to get yourself caught up in comparing yourself to others. I know that this is easier said than done because most of us spend our time scrolling through social media. We are bombarded with the lives of others on a daily basis and it has become the new normal. The snapshots we see of other peoples lives can sometimes make us feel some type of way about our own. Everyone has compared themselves to others at some point in their life.
Most of us know that comparing yourself to others is not healthy, but from time to time we do indulge in it. It might start off small at first and you probably won’t notice that you are doing it and then suddenly it becomes a bad habit that you simply just can’t kick. It can lead to you developing negative feelings towards yourself and this can be very harmful.
Comparing yourself to others is a deadly practice that will most likely leave you unmotivated, envious and upset. Abort mission immediately because all these kinds of feelings are just not worth the hassle. Everyone in life is running their own race, at their own pace and on their own time. Try your best not to get caught up in watching others because it will prevent you navigating in your own lane. You can’t possibly live your best life if your eyes are peeled elsewhere.
When you come to understand the importance of time and the seasons of life, you will never compare yourself to another person again. Everyone’s walk on the earth is different. No two roads travelled will ever be the same and the quicker you realise this the better. It is ok to be inspired by others, just do not go as far as comparing yourself to them. The blogging world is amazing, with so many great bloggers out there doing great things that I would love to do. If I started comparing myself to them then you probably would not be reading this blog. I have come to know and accept that my life as well as my journey, is unique to me.
The poison of comparison will ultimately affect your happiness, the way you see yourself and how you live your life. It does you no favours whatsoever, so please I kindly ask of you to stop indulging in this kind of behaviour immediately. It is totally not worth it Boo. Do not compare yourself to people on the internet and don’t you dare compare yourself to anyone you know in real life.
If you are looking at others peoples life and wondering why you do not have what they have or why you are not where they are, you are heading in dangerous territory. Comparing yourself to others will only damage the way you see yourself, your life and your blessings.
I know that this is not an easy thing to do, so if you find yourself sipping the poison of comparison again try to remember the following gems:
- Stay in your lane.
- If you are not happy, take those necessary steps to make changes.
- Do not beat yourself up because everyone is running their own race.
- The internet is a snapshot of highlights and that is all it will ever be
- Today for you, tomorrow for someone else
- Your time will come
- Do you
- Love you
- Focus on you
Stay blessed
Lots of Love
Jenna
xoxo
ellemacuk
I’m definitely guilty of often comparing my journey with other people’s and I only feel worse for it afterwards! I’m going to come back to this list whenever I need to check myself! X
jennasworldview
Hey Elle, we all have been there but we must, we must not get caught up in doing this. It is very deadly!
Yes copy and paste this list and put it in your notes on your phone.
Jenna |xo
A. Coore
Couldn’t agree with you more. Great post
jennasworldview
Thank you for reading
Jenna
Xox
beereaderbooks
I’ve definitely been guilty of this before but I find now I’m older I’m aware more than ever that others’ journeys and destinations are very difficult to mine and nobody is perfect. Great advice and a refreshing approach to how to tackle it
cockneycountrybumpkin
Loved this!very thought provoking is true so easy to compare yourself to others but doesn’t do us any good! Thank you ?
jennasworldview
Hiya, thank you very much for reading this.
Jenna xox
Jade
Brilliant post lovely! I’m forever comparing myself to other people, and it always causes me to feel unhappy about myself of my life. Loving the 9 points you listed; I’m going to write them in the beginning of my new notebook and look at them whenever I catch myself comparing myself 🙂 xxx
Jade | jademarie.co.uk
jennasworldview
Hi Jade, thank you so much for reading. It is so important we don’t indulge this, it only dims our light.
I love that this is going in your notebook.
Jenna |xo
Jen Dollente
Great post!! Thanks for this! ?
jennasworldview
Hey Jen, thank you for reading.
Our Carpe Diem
Good reminder! Thank you!
jennasworldview
Thank you so much for reading.
Jenna – xoxo
lifeofminek
You are right, what is shared on social media are just highlights of someones day/life and we shouldn’t take it at face value. I agree it’s important for us to take a step back and reevaluate our lives if we want to change. Great post, everyone needs to read this 🙂
jennasworldview
Most definitley, it isso easy to get caught up especially on the socials. You really have to unplugg and focus on you and your life. It will do you a world of good.
Thank you so much for reading, I appreciate it.
Jenna – xox
Arie
When i first started blogging I compare myself so much to others especially when it came to my writing. I realize that everyone writing skills is different and then I stopped comparing and that’s when I go my confidence in my work.
jennasworldview
Hey Arie
Thank you for reading ?
It is easy to compare yourself to others in the blogging world m, we have all been there.
Do you, focus on your writing skills and you will see improvements. When I first start blogging, I was exactly the same. I am not where I was 7 months ago.
You wont be in the same place 7months from now
Keep writing, keep growing and don’t compare yourself to anyone!!
Jenna xoxo
Kae
This post was needed!!!! I’m definitely guilty of doing this. I look at my stats and other people when they say how far they’ve come and I feel like I’m doing something wrong. I had to realize though that everyone goes through their journey at their own pace so I shouldn’t be so hard on myself.
jennasworldview
Hiya Kae
You are amazing in your own way
When you compare you din your own right
Do not worry about stats either, some days I get 6 views other days I am in the hundreds.
Jenna x
Johnzelle
Great post! Definitely a great reminder!
jennasworldview
Hey John
So glad you enjoyed this post
Thank you for reading
Jenna
X
jennyinneverland
Amazing post! I love your little “things to remember” at the end, I may have to screen shot that and keep it on my phone. I’m awful for comparing every aspect of my life to literally everyone else even though I know deep down it’s irrelevant and there ARE no comparisons.
jennasworldview
Thank you for reading Jenny.
Please feel free to screen shot and save!
Also, try not to compare, you are doing amazing in your own lane.
COLLETTE JIMENEZ
Great post I learned very early in my life never to compare life because you don’t how they got to where they are. Whether it is through fair or foul. We all need to take that small step for a much more full filling life.
jennasworldview
Thank you for reading Aunty!
I totally agree
Jenna x
Natasha MacFarlane
This is a great post and something that I really need to be cautious of too. I constantly compare myself. Thank you for this post!
jennasworldview
Hey beautiful
You are amazing in your own way, never forget that. When you compare you dim your own light.
Jenna
X
Migleskr
Motivating words! Thank you for reminding me what is most important. ☺️
jennasworldview
Bless you
Thank you for reading
Jenna
Xox
Lissa
I needed to see this. Comparing myself to others is one of my weaknesses. I’m trying my hardest to work on that. I limited my time on social media because I often felt bad after viewing certain profiles.
LA
jennasworldview
We all have been there but you must try your hardest to push through.
Jenna
X
GrandFashLife
Being on social media where everyone shows off everything is dangerous but as people say, no one is posting their failures and that’s something that keeps me on the right path. Great post!
jennasworldview
Thank you for reading 🙂
Amber Walters
This is such a lovely message! Thank you for sharing 🙂
happilyhavingnoideawhatimdoing.wordpress.com
jennasworldview
Thank you for reading Amber
Jenna
X
Tranisha Burks
Love this post! So true. If we focus on discontentment, what we don’t have, where we aren’t yet it’ll constantly eat away at us. Causing stress, anxiety, and we will miss all of the good around us as we wait for our own seasons of change. Great reminder!
jennasworldview
Hey Tranisha
Thank you for reading, I am so glad this resonated with you.
Jenna
X
cassidysg
Hey Jenna. This is brilliant. I think that so many people are looking to improve their situation. We all want to live our best lives (deep down we really do) but then other things kick in – Fear, envy, greed. All good emotions in limited emotions but social media and in fact the news media arc these up in to a fog that makes you unable to recognise your ‘true self’. so i love your tips and the first one is a gold. stay in your own lane. Thankyou for writing this. GOLD!
Shaun
Projectpalmtree.com
jennasworldview
Thank you for reading Shaun
I too agree with you, we all want to live our best lives but we must not let those obstacles fear, envy, greed get in the way.
Jenna
X
tris
Amazing post
Finlay grace Allan
I really enjoyed this blog post, I feel like this is something everyone needs to read! Your tips are fantastic! Amazing post ?
Chloe O'Keeffe
Such a positive read, just what I needed this morning!!
Memoirs & Musings (Char)
I needed to read this. I’m such a believer of slaying in your lane but that devil that is social media makes you feel like you need to be at certain stage or have certain things. Comparison really is the enemy of joy.
Char xo || http://www.memoirsmusings.com
debraeojay
Social Media plays a huge role in inducing these feelings. I have just returned after a year and a half hiatus, for this very reason.
Apps like Instagram and Snapchat can heighten feelings of insecurity and self- doubt. In today’s society, individuals feel pressured to attain certain things or be at a certain level in life even if they don’t have the means to do so realistically. This pressure comes from what society deems as ‘successful’/’the in thing’ which changes every so often.
Half Glass Full
Amazing blog!!
jennasworldview
Thank you for reading ❤️
Miss Blogs-A-Bit
Brilliant post and so true! I’m so guilty of comparing myself to others, even though I know damn straight that it isn’t at all healthy. It’s something that I’ve really tried to overcome this past year. It’s definitely a learning curve though! It’s likely to be something that I’ll never completely shake off but I intend to keep trying! Xx
http://www.missblogsabit.com
Ash
This is a great post! I love point two about taking the steps to make changes. This is something I’m trying currently and it’s working great so far. If I feel low about my accomplishments, I will pour that energy into taking the steps to achieve it. It gives me a sense of power knowing I can change my situation
jennasworldview
Hey Ash
Thank you for reading
I am pleased to know you have found this post insightful, lets me know I am doing something right. Please do take the steps on board and dont be hard on yourself, everyones time will come.
Jenna xo