3 Ways to Practice Self-Love in 2020
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Hey Boo
Happy New Year
I’m kicking off the new year with ‘The Self Series’.
January is the month where most people start babbling on about new this and new that. Come February most of that talk and action will be gone right out the window. So I decided to start the year off from a different angle. This three-part blog series will focus on areas oneself can actively work on for a fruitful 2019. So to start off here are 3 ways to practice Self-Love in 2019.
S E L F – L O V E
regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.
One of my good girlfriends was going through some relationship issues and in conversation, she turned around and said to me ”Jenna, how do I love myself, I want to be able to love myself like you”. I was taken back because the self – love thing for me was truly a case of trial and error.
I did not just wake up one day and have it all together. At one point in my life, I truly believed that I loved myself. But there were certain situations that occurred in my past which made me see, that I did not love myself as much as I liked to portray. It was those same situations that made me realise I had to get my act together and let me just tell you the journey to SELF- LOVE has been far from easy.
I had so many bad habits and unhealthy attachments in my life that seemed to be getting in my way. It was a struggle having to unlearn and detach myself from things I had become very much accustomed to. Things like settling, self-sabotage, being unkind to myself, holding on to toxic friendships and emotionally abusive partners. It was my faith and journey to getting baptised at age 25 that really helped me put the whole Self-Love thing into perspective.
I always knew that God Loved me but I didn’t necessarily know how to properly show Love towards myself. You might not follow a particular religion like me, but that does not mean that you are unable to learn, grow and make an effort to practice self-love. I challenge you to make 2019 the year you focus on loving yourself whole heartedly.
1. Let it go
Us humans really know how to hold on to things that truly serve us no purpose. I get it, I truly do because I have been there before. I have wasted my valuable time holding on to situations, relationships and bad habits that were better off left behind me. First of all, acknowledge that you can NOT change your past. There are no amount of shoulda, woulda, couldas to change the outcome of what has already taken place.
Whatever happened, happened. Every time you replay those past things over again in your mind, you resurrect it from the dead and give it life. STOP giving those old situations permission to come into your current space and cause all kinds of havoc. Breathe Boo and just simply LET IT GO, whether it be a job, relationship, or missed opportunity, LET IT GO! It is impossible to fully practice Self-love if you are holding on to things that hinder you from moving forward.
2. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries
I only discovered the importance of healthy boundaries when I started going to counseling in 2017. I had no idea what they were and I did not have them actively in place within any of my personal relationships. I quickly came to learn that what you allow from others, is what will continue. We teach people how to treat us and the best way to avoid having any blurred lines is to put some healthy boundaries in place.
Boundaries help to regulate what the extents and limits are between you and others. It is essential to have them in place because they help to protect you and your personal peace. On your journey to practicing self-love in 2019, be clear on what your boundaries are, put them in place and don’t compromise.
3. Spend time with yourself
It might come as a surprise to you the number of people in the world who find it difficult to spend time in their own company. Having time with yourself is a great way to learn more about who you are, your needs, wants and what you like etc. In this day and age, we spend countless hours scrolling through social media where so many things are fighting for our attention. It can be a struggle to find a few minutes for yourself.
For 2019, I urge you to fall in love with your own company. Spend an hour or two away from the socials, read a book, go for a walk, get your creative juices flowing. Even if it is just 10minutes, be alone with your thoughts.
On my birthday last month, after I went to brunch with my Sister circle I took MYSELF to the Savoy Theatre to see Dream Girls. I received a few side eyes when I revealed to everyone that I was going alone. But I just had the urge to do it and I am so glad I did because I had such an amazing time.
My evening ended with a big smile on my face as I enjoyed a sweet stroll alongside the river, taking in the city lights. Just me, myself and my thoughts. It was refreshing. So please please please this year spend time alone to love on yourself without any distractions.
I hope you will find these 3 tips useful as you use them on your Self-Love journey this year.
The second installment of this three-part series is out now: Be about that Self-Care life in 2019
Lastly, I would like to thank you for the Love and Support you have shown to JWV last year. I look forward to revealing all the good stuff that I have in store for my readers in 2019.
Stay Blessed
Lots Of Love
Jenna
xoxo
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reflectionofdes
I love every piece of this blog post. I like how you shared your personal experience. Right now I’m on the journey of self love and it’s been amazing so far!!
jennasworldview
Hey Des
Thank you for reading
I am so glad you enjoyed this post
I love using my personal experiences I find it easy to write that way.
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COLLETTE JIMENEZ
Wonderful start to the new year. Your blog will be a remainder to others. I myself came face to face with self love almost 40years ago and never look back
jennasworldview
Love you Aunty❤️ thanks reading x
trousseaudiaries
Nothing but truth here Jenna! This post is absolutely spot on! Letting go is a big one! You are right, nobody ever goes forward looking back! Spending time on your own! WORRRRD! This is so so important and something people dont really think about. Im definitely going to put these into practice. 2019 will be my year of growth in more ways than one!
jennasworldview
Hey Queen
Thank you for reading
Yassss claim 2019 as your year for growth..
It is yours for the taking
Jenna |xo
bukolaveronica
This is such great advice. I believe that self love is the most important type of love and without it, it’ll be hard to truly love anyone and anything else! Great post!
Bukola Veronica,
http://www.bukolaveronica.com
jennasworldview
Hi Bukola
Thank you for reading and I couldn’t agree with you more?
Queen Karen
Right on ??. If you don’t love yourself, you won’t even understand or know how to receive love from others. Like you mentioned, there are many people who don’t like spending time with themselves. Honey child, I love spending time with myself. I think that many times the reason why people find it difficult to spend time alone is because they don’t want to be reminded of all that they are going through. A lot of times, people try to cover up or don’t want to deal with their problems so spending time with others helps them not to focus on their worries. Great post ?✨.
jennasworldview
Queen Karen
Thank you for reading, I love when I read your comments because you always pour back into me.
I agree with everything you said and then some. When you are alone it is just you, your thoughts and reality. Not many people can stomach that as it sends them into scare mode. But in 2019, people have to start loving themselves authentically and deal with things head on.
Part 2 of this series is now out, have a read when you can http://ow.ly/YNsX30nivqn
Jenna|xo
Queen Karen
Yayy will read it Jenna. Thank you ?
Davida
This post is so relatable. One thing I’m realising on my self-love journey is that you never “arrive”, because there’s always so much more to discover as you go through different seasons of life. Looking forward to the rest of the series. Keep writing, girl x
trinitravels
So absolutely important. A thought just ran through my mind that 9/10 it’s a woman who has remind herself to love herself flaws and all. We go through so much years just waiting for someone else to do it (usually a man). Thanks for the upcoming self series, will look out for more! Hope you have a fantastic 2019!
Its Kelle's Space
I loved every single part of this post.
We have a similar story.
I have been unkind to myself and settled for less on so many occasions but that will never happen again.
Practicing self love will always protect you from what’s not meant for you.
Thank you for sharing this message x
Kelle – http://www.itskellesspace.com
jennasworldview
Hey Kelle ?
Thank you for reading
It is great to know we have similar stories and we are now able to speak about them in such beautiful ways.
Practicing Self-love is essential for 2019 and I don’t plan to stop xx
Jenna|xo
Shanz
Firstly, beautiful pic. I know all too well about claiming to love myself but now I’m like I probably didn’t really because self-love wouldn’t have allowed me to accept less than I deserve, Realizing that comes with growth. and Great Tips!
jennasworldview
Hi Shanz
Thank you for reading and thank you for your compliment?
Rachael Hope
GIRL! I needed this post so much today. Thank you so much for sharing you have lifted my spirits with your insight ? Rach
https://rachaelhope.co.uk/
Alice Whalley
What a great post to start 2019 with. So true! I will practice self love this year!
jennasworldview
Hi Alice
Thank you for reading
Self Love is the focus for 2019❤️
Yanitza Ninett
Awesome post! Self-love is very much needed for healthy well-being.
jennasworldview
Yanitza
Thank you for reading, Self-love is KEY?❤️
Ronkerria's Post
These were great tips I will be using and your make up is bomb!
jennasworldview
Hi Ronkerria
Thank you for reading ❤️
As Told By Nella
I love this post. Self-love is definitely something I’m working on in 2019
jennasworldview
Hi Nella
Thank you for reading
Self Love is the focus for 2019?
Larry Lewis
Love this article and you are spot on, everyone should have on top of their New Year Resolutions Practice Self-Love together with Self Care. The two together are empowering!
jennasworldview
Hi Larry
Thank you so much for reading, I totally agree ?
thebrokenrobot
Loved this post. ❤️
ellieslondon
So true – I love this. Spending time with yourself and letting go are the most important things for me ♥
jennasworldview
Hi Ellie
Thank you for reading ?
Ruxandra
Lovely post ? I am also focusing more on self-care & boundaries this year !
jennasworldview
Hi
Thank you for reading
I am so glad to hear this.
Part 2 of this series is out now and it is about #selfcare http://ow.ly/YNsX30nivqn
Jenna|xox
Maria'sDreamsAndRambles ? (@MariaCarletonYT)
I adore everything about this post! Definitely focusing on taking care of myself this year. Thanks for sharing and keep up the lovely posts, you’re absolutely fab gal! xx
jennasworldview
Hi Maria
Thank you so much
Taking care of YOU is essential and I hope this year you stay on course to taking care of the person who is most important.
Part 2 is now out now http://ow.ly/YNsX30nivqn
Jenna |xo
beereaderbooks
Boundaries are definitely key, it’s not something we are even often taught either, yet has vastly improved my wellbeing o we the last couple of years.
jennasworldview
Hi Bee
Thank you for reading
I agree boundaries are key and they serve such a great purpose. X
Jennifer Bergh
Absolutely love this post! I find it easier to love everyone else but myself! I’ll fefinately try some of these ideas!
Thanks!
ellie
This post is so beautiful, thank you so much for sharing, really uplifting 🙂
My recent post: https://lifeofellabella.blogspot.com/2019/01/my-go-to-natural-makeup-5-minute-makeup.html
jennasworldview
Hi Ellie, Thank you for reading ?
jennasworldview
I loved your 5minute make up look. Sometimes it is easier to do this on a day to day, especially for work! Xx
Unsensored
You seriously have inspired me with this. You hit some very important key points in what seem to be based on what makes you happy. I can’t wait for part 2 ?
jennasworldview
Awww I am so glad to hear this
Part 2 is out now? ? NEW POST ?
Be about that #SELFCARE life in 2019 ?
ow.ly/YNsX30nivqn
✨
racheltessler
This is spot on! Especially the part about letting things so go. So difficult but so important 🙂
Kendra | Self-Care Overload
I loved this read! The thing that I need to work on is letting things go. That has always been a struggle of mine. I want to change that and start letting things go. I also want to work on making time for myself. Alone time is so important when trying to engage in self-care. Thanks for your tips!
Kendra ?
romunem
Thank you
jennasworldview
No problem, I am so happy this post has blessed you.