PART 7 - The End - Views from the Mandem is a blog series that covers topics relevant to the Black male experience. Read more at Jennasworldview.com

VIEWS FROM THE MANDEM

Last opening words from Jenna…

We have finally come to the end of the Views From the Mandem blog series and I must say that it has been insightful, informative and refreshing to hear what the Mandem have to say.It is my hope that you have enjoyed the series or at least learned something new. To round everything off it was only right that I reached out to my blogging brother Jason aka The DSD to bless us with some thought provoking closing words, enjoy.

The Journey

First thing first, big up all the mandem, who has been part of this!

With all the post this month, whatever, you have to be happy within your journey, not just the destination. To enjoy that journey, you have to love what you’re doing to get yourself out of that predicament where you’re not enjoying. You can do this by being mindful of the following…

  1. Every little step I take gets me closer to my destination
  2. It’s fun to improve myself
  3. It’s okay if you’re not at the destination yet—You’ll get there eventually
  4. Take time to travel to think things through

 

PART 7 - The End  - Views from the Mandem is a blog series that covers topics relevant to the Black male experience. Read more at Jennasworldview.com

A lot of the Mandem wonder what the key to success is. Is it Persistence? Hard work? Being decisive? Well, these things are obviously all good but there’s one key to success that’s even more fundamental than these! It’s your ability to stay present to the moment and to focus on the process, not on the results.

We’re all on our own special little paths in life. Sometimes, it’s easy to get so obsessed overreaching  towards that destination that we simply forget to see the beauty in our own paths. In order to reach the destination, we must focus on the present moment. When you learn to enjoy the journey, everything becomes a breeze;

PART 7 - The End  - Views from the Mandem is a blog series that covers topics relevant to the Black male experience. Read more at Jennasworldview.com

Ironically enough, not focusing too much on the destination is the only way to reach it. This is the key to success. The journey is how you grow, it’s how you expand yourself, and it’s how you have fun. The journey is how you learn to cope with struggle and get back up when you’ve failed. It’s the JOURNEY that’s enjoyable! There’s no use in fighting it, running away from it or denying it. Just learn to enjoy the journey, and you will go far.

PART 7 - The End  - Views from the Mandem is a blog series that covers topics relevant to the Black male experience. Read more at Jennasworldview.com

Without going into too much detail, I can tell you that a large part of my becoming-an-adult process involves unlearning things our parents have taught us (to an extent, of course).

If you had parents who were very loving and well-meaning people, then this process may even difficult. But we’re now in a new era where things are just different in this world. So don’t be afraid to analyze them, and ask why you feel the way you do about certain things.

It’s 2019, you have to think for yourself, as much as you can, using the evidence that you found on our own in the world. 

Our parents were just like us and made mistakes along the way. They have their prejudices and limitations. It’s OK. It doesn’t necessarily make them terrible people, only limited ones and you don’t have to share their ways. You’re allowed to grow beyond them, just make sure you’re happy with what that may be!

What does your heart say?

Where does your courage come from?

What are you willing to give it all up for?

Develop and maximize your talent, strengths, and skills, just make you do whatever, your heart says and not someone else! Learning to enjoy the journey is one of the most difficult, yet rewarding things that you will ever do. Society trains us to chase pleasures and to be goal-oriented, so undoing this conditioning will take some time.

Take the same approach with your life. It’s on the journey that we have all the fun. Sure, getting a certain result is great, but the journey is where the real magic happens.

Follow these two quotes and watch how your view of life changes.

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.”

Charles Dickens

Written

by Jason
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