Be about that Self-Care life in 2019

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Hey Boo

Welcome back to ’The SELF series’ I hope you have already started to put in place the things we spoke in my last post, 3 ways to practice SELF-LOVE in 2019.

I truly believe that once you get to grips with the Self-love thing you can start to get yourself well acquainted with Self-care. In my mind, the two go hand in hand, although it is possible to indulge in one much more than the other. Regardless of how you choose to get it in, Self-care should be a major component in our everyday lives.

S E L F – C A R E

the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being, health and happiness.

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When it comes down to Self-care I will always encourage others to do what is best for them. What I might define as Self-care for me, might look completely foreign to you. What works for me, might not necessarily work for you and that is ok because different strokes for different folks. However, I do want to point out that self-care is much more than getting your nails done or buying yourself a new pair of trainers.

Self-care is an intentional act that serves the Mind, Body & Soul. So if you are new to the Self-care movement or have never paid much attention to it, let me walk in you through ways you can incorporate it into your life in 2019.


The Mind

The Mind is one of the most valuable assets that human beings have and we often underestimate the amount of power that it holds. A healthy, functioning and sound mind is something we should all strive to have and maintain in 2019.

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Positive thoughts: Our mind is like soil in the ground and our thoughts and ideas are the seeds that we plant in it. This is why it is important to ensure you are looking after your mind and watering it with things that are fruitful, nourishing and help you grow as a person. Remember your thoughts become things, good or bad.

Affirmations: Once you declutter the negative noise in your mind, reprogramme and fill yourself up with good thoughts that you can start to declare and affirm out loud.

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– Unplug: There is one day out of the week when I don’t use social media. Now, this may seem unbelievable because I know you see me on your feed promoting the blog or throwing my two cents in, but it is true lol. Unplugging from your socials will do your mind a world of good, it will slow you down and give you the chance to do so many other productive things like reading a book, prayer or meditation.

Counselling: Sometimes you need a fresher perspective and a listening ear from someone who is in your corner without any emotional attachments. Counselling gives you the opportunity to clear your mind in a healthy way, be in a space that is safe, non-judgemental and guarantees that your voice will be heard.


The Body

I know you probably have heard this a thousand times before but our body is our temple. It is our responsibility to look after it by doing what we need to do to keep everything in order. When it comes to practising Self-care on your own body, I am sure you already know what you need to be doing. But just in case you need a reminder, here are some Self- care ideas that will help you look after your body.

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– A good night sleep: We put our bodies under a lot of strain and stress on a daily basis and to add insult to injury we don’t get enough sleep. Most of us are running on empty which is basically like driving around in a car with the petrol light on red. Do yourself and your body a favour and start getting in some proper sleep. On a Saturday if I don’t have any plans,  I let my body sleep in until whatever o clock.

Make changes: Portion control, meal prep, up your intake of one food group, reduce another. Commit to more physical activity, drink more water and mind your business, lol. Set yourself a few small goals and stick to them.

Most of us are guilty of neglecting our bodies but this year make an effort to get things in order. Book that doctors appointment, go to the dentist, visit the opticians, start taking your vitamins etc. To my Ladies, if you are over 25 book a Smear test.


The Soul

Self-care for the soul is something that is so easily overlooked, that it usually goes over most peoples head. It is impossible to function at full capacity without the nourishment of your soul. Below are two activities that will soothe your soul.

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– Forgiveness: Most people struggle with forgiveness whether it be towards others or themselves. But carrying any kind unforgiveness in your spirit will leave your walking around with an unsettled soul. In my last post, I told you to let things go that no longer serve you, but whilst you’re at it don’t forget to forgive others and yourself in the process.

Prayer: Another universal language of the world is prayer and it also serves as food for our soul. There is nothing I love more in this world than prayer, it is one of my special gifts and my day is unable to flow properly without it. Prayer gives you the opportunity to pour yourself out to God. It allows you to connect to the source, recharge and reflect. If you don’t know what to pray for, start by giving thanks for your life. It will leave you feeling very refreshed and empowered.

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I hope you have found this piece informative as well as helpful. Remember you can use this as a rough guide to help you create a Self-care routine that works for you. Pace yourself and just take it day by day.

Please do bear in mind that it only takes 21 days to form a habit. So commit yourself to the process, be intentional and prioritise. Self-care is a priority and necessity that is essential in order for you to have a better 2019.

For more tips on Self-Care, check out my board on Pinterest, don’t forget to Pin it.

Stay Blessed

Lots of Love


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Just so you know: The final post of this series will be out next week and it is all about ‘SELF PROMO’. If you are one of those people who struggle to put yourself forward for opportunities or showcase your skills and talents then that post will most definitely be for you.

3 Ways to Practice Self-Love in 2019

3 ways to practice self loveReading Time: 8 Minutes (Work commute or Lunch break read)

Hey Boo

Happy New Year

2019 is now in full swing and I am kicking off my 2019 content with The Self Series’.

January is the month where most people start babbling on about new this and new that. Come February most of that talk and action will be gone right out the window. So I decided to start the year off from a different angle. This three-part blog series will focus on areas oneself can actively work on for a fruitful 2019.

3 Simple Ways to Practice Self Love

S E L F – L O V E

regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.

One of my good girlfriends was going through some relationship issues and in conversation, she turned around and said to me ”Jenna, how do I love myself, I want to be able to love myself like you”. I was taken back because the self – love thing for me was truly a case of trial and error.

I did not just wake up one day and have it all together. At one point in my life, I truly believed that I loved myself. But there were certain situations that occurred in my past which made me see, that I did not love myself as much as I liked to portray. It was those same situations that made me realise I had to get my act together and let me just tell you the journey to SELF- LOVE has been far from easy.

3 Simple Ways to Practice Self Care

I had so many bad habits and unhealthy attachments in my life that were getting in my way. It was a struggle having to unlearn and detach myself from things I had become very much accustomed to. Things like settling, self-sabotage, being unkind to myself, holding on to toxic friendships and emotionally abusive partners. It was my faith and journey to getting baptised at age 25 that really helped me put the whole Self-Love thing into perspective.

I always knew that God Loved me but I didn’t necessarily know how to properly show Love towards myself. You might not follow a particular religion like me, but that does not mean that you are unable to learn, grow and make an effort to practice self-love. I challenge you to make 2019 the year you focus on loving yourself whole heartedly.

3 Simple Ways to Practice Self Love

1. Let it go

Us humans really know how to hold on to things that truly serve us no purpose. I get it, I truly do because I have been there before. I have wasted my valuable time holding on to situations, relationships and bad habits that were better off left behind me. First of all, acknowledge that you can NOT change your past. There are no amount of shoulda, woulda, couldas to change the outcome of what has already taken place.

Whatever happened, happened. Every time you replay those past things over again in your mind, you resurrect it from the dead and give it life. STOP giving those old situations permission to come into your current space and cause all kinds of havoc. Breathe Boo and just simply LET IT GO, whether it be a job, relationship, or missed opportunity, LET IT GO! It is impossible to fully practice Self-love if you are holding on to things that hinder you from moving forward.

3 Simple Ways to Practice Self Love

2. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries

I only discovered the importance of healthy boundaries when I started going to counselling in 2017. I had no idea what they were and I did not have them actively in place within any of my personal relationships. I quickly came to learn that what you allow from others, is what will continue. We teach people how to treat us and the best way to avoid having any blurred lines is to put some healthy boundaries in place.

Boundaries help to regulate what the extents and limits are between you and others. It is essential to have them in place because they help to protect you and your personal peace. On your journey to practising self-love in 2019, be clear on what your boundaries are, put them in place and don’t compromise.

3 Ways to Practice Self Love3. Spend time with yourself

It might come as a surprise to you the number of people in the world who find it difficult to spend time in their own company. Having time with yourself is a great way to learn more about who you are, your needs, wants and what you like etc. In this day and age, we spend countless hours scrolling through social media where so many things are fighting for our attention. It can be a struggle to find a few minutes for yourself.

For 2019, I urge you to fall in love with your own company. Spend an hour or two away from the socials, read a book, go for a walk, get your creative juices flowing. Even if it is just 10minutes, be alone with your thoughts.

On my birthday last month, after I went to brunch with my Sister circle I took MYSELF to the Savoy Theatre to see Dreamgirls. I received a few side eyes when I revealed to everyone that I was going alone. But I just had the urge to do it and I am so glad I did because I had such an amazing time.

My evening ended with a big smile on my face as I enjoyed a sweet stroll alongside the river, taking in the city lights. Just me, myself and my thoughts. It was refreshing. So please please please this year spend time alone to love on yourself without any distractions.

3 Ways to Practice Self Love

I hope you will find these 3 tips useful as you use them on your Self-Love journey this year. Be sure to look out for the second instalment of this three-part series it will be on SELF-CARE’. I aim to put it out later this week.

Lastly, I would like to thank you for the Love and Support you have shown to JWV last year.  I look forward to revealing all the good stuff that I have in store for my readers in 2019.


Stay Blessed

Lots Of Love




For more tips on Self-love, check out my board on Pinterest